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Put The Past Behind

By | 2017-10-16T13:48:07+00:00 October 10th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Divorce, Emotional Pain|

Put The Past Behind! I often hear a client say "I thought I put the past behind me but suddenly I found myself thinking hateful thoughts of my ex!" The reality is that until we truly process the feelings, issues or conflicts that brought about divorce it's difficult to put the past behind. Those [...]

Surviving or Thriving! Your Choice!

By | 2018-07-04T12:40:06+00:00 April 14th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Divorce, Emotional Pain, Self Compassion|Tags: , , |

Surviving or Thriving – your choice  Surviving divorce is one of the most difficult, stressful, confusing, chaotic and painful times in life. Getting through the process is challenging and has many ups and downs. Some people go into denial blame shame or they start numbing –using: alcohol, exercise, TV, Facebook, pornography, overeating All in an [...]

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We are Enough and Perfect

By | 2017-03-07T11:48:43+00:00 July 11th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Emotional Pain, General, Self Compassion|

Enough and Perfect Psychologists, theologians, and spiritual teachers often espouse that we are enough and perfect as we are. This idea has been popularized most recently in the work of Brene Brown who's recent Ted Talk which focused on our human connection--that is, our ability to empathize, belong and love. Shame is the inner emotional [...]

How’s your love life?

By | 2017-02-17T15:33:41+00:00 June 21st, 2016|Categories: Divorce|

After my divorce people began asking me –“how’s your love life”? What they were asking about –was I dating anyone, had I found a new “love interest”? The love life that matters most –I discovered- is the one inside of me. Was I in a loving relationship with me? As with most people going through [...]

What are We Afraid of When a Relationship Ends?

By | 2017-02-17T15:33:41+00:00 June 18th, 2016|Categories: Divorce|

Fears of Relationship Ending Relationship ending brings many changes. Many of the changes are unwanted, and can lead to more fears- losing friends, how will my family/neighbors/coworkers/church members etc.- view me now? Some fears you have lived with all your life-some you outgrew. Sometimes we have fears that are dormant when we are in a [...]

Anger is Often An Excuse by Nick Meima

By | 2017-02-17T15:33:41+00:00 June 11th, 2016|Categories: Emotional Pain|

Recently a student declared that she had anger issues. What exactly did that mean for her? “Well” she said” I often get triggered and then I act in an aggressive way. I have had three marriages, and they all ended because of my anger issues.” As we explored together, it became clear that the surface [...]

Five Steps to Mending a Broken Heart

By | 2017-02-17T15:33:41+00:00 May 24th, 2016|Categories: Self Compassion|

Mending a Broken Heart in Five Steps: Accept that you will have to go through some pain. It is an unavoidable truth that if you loved enough to be heartbroken, you have to experience some suffering. When you lose something that mattered to you, it is natural and important to feel sad about it: that [...]