What is an Emotional Affair
An emotional affair is where you break the emotional bond with your partner and create one with someone else that has a lot of emotional energy attached to it, as well as sexual energy. ~~Nick Meima
Put The Past Behind
Put The Past Behind! I often hear a client say "I thought I put the past behind me but suddenly I found myself thinking hateful thoughts of my ex!" The reality is that until we truly process the feelings, issues or conflicts that brought about divorce it's difficult to put the past behind. Those [...]
Letting Go is a Difficult Process
Letting go of the pain, sadness, grief and the many challenging emotions involved in ending a relationship is always difficult.
Surviving or Thriving! Your Choice!
Surviving or Thriving – your choice Surviving divorce is one of the most difficult, stressful, confusing, chaotic and painful times in life. Getting through the process is challenging and has many ups and downs. Some people go into denial blame shame or they start numbing –using: alcohol, exercise, TV, Facebook, pornography, [...]
We are Enough and Perfect
Enough and Perfect Psychologists, theologians, and spiritual teachers often espouse that we are enough and perfect as we are. This idea has been popularized most recently in the work of Brene Brown who's recent Ted Talk which focused on our human connection--that is, our ability to empathize, belong and love. Shame is the inner emotional [...]
How’s your love life?
After my divorce people began asking me –“how’s your love life”? What they were asking about –was I dating anyone, had I found a new “love interest”? The love life that matters most –I discovered- is the one inside of me. Was I in a loving relationship with me? As with most people going through [...]
What are We Afraid of When a Relationship Ends?
Fears of Relationship Ending Relationship ending brings many changes. Many of the changes are unwanted, and can lead to more fears- losing friends, how will my family/neighbors/coworkers/church members etc.- view me now? Some fears you have lived with all your life-some you outgrew. Sometimes we have fears that are dormant when we are in a [...]
Five Steps to Mending a Broken Heart
Mending a Broken Heart in Five Steps: Accept that you will have to go through some pain. It is an unavoidable truth that if you loved enough to be heartbroken, you have to experience some suffering. When you lose something that mattered to you, it is natural and important to feel sad about it: [...]
5 Stages of Loss – Denial is the First
Denial is the First of the 5 Stages of Loss The book, "On Death and Dying," by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, proposed there are five distinct stages of normal grief. While the focus of the book is on death, the concept has been extended to all loss - including the loss of a relationship from a breakup [...]
What About the Children?
Children and Divorce Children are profoundly affected when their parents are in conflict. They are dependent on parents for well being and survival and are helpless to resolve any of the issues. More than that, they often feel in some way responsible for the situation. It is true that children are resilient, and we often [...]