Divorce can feel like a social earthquake—friends drift, invitations dry up, and you’re left wondering how to start over. It’s tempting to hide out, but real connection is what brings life back. At Rebuilders International, we’ve spent over 40 years helping people rebuild their social circles through our proven approach, backed by the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS). This isn’t about forcing friendships—it’s about finding ties that fit who you are now. Here’s how our structured method can guide you today.

Why Your Social World Feels Shaky

Divorce doesn’t just change your relationship—it rewires your social map. Old friends may not know how to show up, or you might feel like you don’t fit anymore. People often say, “Just get out there,” but that can feel hollow when you’re still finding your footing. Our method, refined over decades, shows that rebuilding starts with trust—in yourself and others. The FDAS, with its .93 reliability, proves active steps toward connection boost confidence and joy. Let’s dive in.

5 Rebuilders Steps to Rebuild Your Social Circle

These steps, drawn from our 10-week workshop, use our unique tools to move you from isolation to authentic relationships, rooted in our focus on trust and connection:

1. Check Your Starting Point
   You can’t rebuild until you know where you stand. Our free self-test takes 10 minutes and shows how ready you are to connect. Low trust scores? That’s normal early on. In our groups, one woman saw her score and said, “I’m not broken—just starting.” Knowing your baseline, like our disentanglement work, sets you up to grow.

2. Affirm “I Am Enough”
   Divorce can make you doubt your place in any room. Our core belief? You’re a “gem,” worthy of connection. Try this daily: say, “I am enough,” in the mirror. A man in our support group said this gave him guts to join a game night. This practice, tied to our self-worth tools, builds confidence to reach out.

3. Lean on Our Community
   You’re not alone in this. Our online groups connect you with others navigating the same path—like how to handle a barbecue without your ex. One member found a coffee buddy after sharing a story. Swap ideas, laugh, and see connection is closer than you think. Our trust-building exercises show small talks lead to real bonds.

4. Try One New Step
   New friends need a spark. Pick one thing you enjoy—maybe a book club, a hike, or volunteering—and go once. Our program teaches that action shifts your world. A client said a pottery class led to her first post-divorce friend. Choose one activity that feels like you—it’s a door to people who match your vibe.

5. Reach Out with Ease
   Meaningful ties start small. Our groups use a “treasured list” exercise—naming one person you’d like to know better and taking a tiny step, like texting, “Great seeing you!” A participant said this turned a coworker into a weekend pal. It’s about acting from care, not pressure, creating friendships that feel right.

A Circle That Feels Like You

Rebuilding your social circle post-divorce isn’t about replacing old friends—it’s about finding people who see the real you. Our structured approach has helped thousands since 1974, with workshop completers since 2021 showing stronger social trust via FDAS scores. You can build your crew too, one honest step at a time.

Feeling Stuck? We’re Here

Making new connections takes courage, but our programs—online, in-person, or self-paced—give you tools and a community to make it real. Visit our homepage or book a free clarity call. Want to ease in? Join our free support group Tuesdays online.

You’re Built for Connection

You’re not meant to stay on the sidelines. What’s one small way you’ll connect today? Share below—we’re rooting for you!