Divorce can strip away the labels you leaned on—spouse, partner, planner—leaving you wondering who’s left. It’s not just a loss; it’s a chance to meet the real you. At Rebuilders International, we’ve guided thousands for over 40 years to rebuild their sense of self with our proven approach, backed by the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS). This isn’t about reinventing yourself—it’s about uncovering the strength that’s always been there. Here’s how to begin.

What’s Clouding Your Sense of Self?

Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage—it blurs the edges of who you are. You might feel caught between old roles and an unknown future, and “be yourself” sounds empty when you’re not sure who that is. Our method shows that rediscovering your identity starts with facing those questions head-on. The FDAS, with its .93 reliability, proves that active steps toward self-awareness bring clarity. Let’s dive into how to find your way.

Your Rebuilders Roadmap: 5 Steps to Reclaim You

These tools, drawn from our 10-week workshop, help you rebuild your identity with confidence, grounded in authenticity:

1. Pinpoint What’s Shifted
   Knowing what’s changed clears the fog. Our Empowerment Triangle—caring, vulnerability, assertiveness—lets you name it: “I don’t know who I am alone.” A group member said this felt like “turning on a light.” Try it: write one thing you feel you’ve lost. It’s like our grief work, making room for who you’re becoming.

2. Anchor in Your Value
   Divorce can make you doubt your worth. We say you’re a “gem,” whole right now. Start this habit: each day, tell yourself, “I am enough.” A client in our support group said it shifted her from shame to pride. This self-worth practice, tied to our identity tools, reminds you that you’re enough, no matter what.

3. Check Your Inner Compass
   Feeling lost often ties to deeper doubts. Our free self-test takes 10 minutes and shows your self-worth score—low numbers just mean you’re starting. A man saw his and said, “I’m not broken, just growing.” This step, like our RIFT framework’s identity phase, helps you focus on what needs rebuilding.

4. Rediscover a Past Joy
   Your identity lives in what lights you up. Pick one thing you once loved—maybe painting, hiking, or cooking—and try it this week. Our program’s challenge behaviors show action sparks clarity. A woman said restarting yoga felt like “coming home.” Choose one small act—it’s a clue to who you are.

5. Tap Our Circle
   You’re not alone in this search. Our online groups connect you with others finding themselves—like how to own a room without a plus-one. One member found confidence sharing stories with the group. Swap a win, hear a tip, and feel your strength grow. Our tools show connection sharpens your sense of self.

A You That Feels Whole

Rediscovering your identity post-divorce is about peeling back layers to find the real you, not building a new one from scratch. Our structured approach has empowered thousands since 1974, with workshop completers since 2021 showing stronger self-worth via FDAS scores. You can uncover your truth too, one bold step at a time.

Ready for Support?

This journey’s messy, but our programs—online, in-person, or self-paced—offer tools and a community to guide you. Visit our homepage or book a free clarity call. Prefer a light start? Join our free support group Tuesdays online.

You’re Already There

You’re more than what you’ve lost. What’s one small way you’ll reconnect with yourself today? Share below—we’re rooting for you!