What is it that we are so afraid of when our relationship ends? Is it the fear of being alone, afraid of loneliness? Are we afraid that no one else will want to be with us, that no one will love us? Are we afraid of growing older? Concerned about how aging affects our energy, [...]
There are ways to increase positive, loving open-hearted connections with our partner, our friends. There are also ways to ensure that we increase our separation, disconnection, closed-heartedness. This is what has to stop if you want to increase your happiness and sense of well-being. The Four Separators Judgment Guilt Shame Blame These are the top [...]
Why You Should Wait to Date After Divorce There are many “online experts” who suggest that you should jump into the dating pool right after your divorce. In our experience it’s not a good idea. Many people are in denial about the emotional and practical challenges they face in relationship loss. Divorce or death of [...]
A Great Question? Victim Consciousness? Let's start with defining the two terms: Full Definition of victim 1: a living being sacrificed to a deity or in the performance of a religious rite 2: one that is acted on and usually adversely affected by a force or agent <the schools arevictims of the social system>: asa(1): [...]
The Blame Game Blame - assign responsibility for a fault or wrong. No matter the size of the mishap, accident, or pain, it is easy to point the finger, placing the blame or responsibility on someone or something outside of ourselves. 5 reasons we play the blame game Blame is an excellent defense mechanism. Whether [...]
The things I wish someone told me about divorce before I began the whole process. Michele Zipp - Huffington Post, "They say marriage takes a lot of work, and it does, work that can be really rewarding. But divorce takes even more work, especially when there are kids involved." Here's what women wished they would [...]
The Effects of Divorce on Men and Women As you would expect, men and women experience divorce very differently. Society tells us that women struggle more than men. As it turns out, men often find divorce more challenging to their overall health and well-being. According to a recent study from the Journal of Men's Health, [...]