How Are You Adjusting To The Ending Of A Love Relationship?

Complete The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Below

Complete the self-test & you’ll receive an email with your results.

I offer a 20-minute Complimentary Phone Consult to help interpret your test results. Once you receive your results call me at 720-524-3664 to discuss them or I’ll give you a call. We’ll also follow-up with you by email.

Answer each of the following questions below:

The following statements are feelings and attitudes that people frequently experience while they are ending a love relationship. Keeping in mind one specific relationship you have ended or are ending, read each statement and decide how frequently the statement applies to your present feelings and attitudes. You must answer every question. If the statement is not appropriate for you in your present situation, answer the way you feel you might if that statement were appropriate.

I am comfortable telling people I am separated from my Ex
I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night
I am constantly thinking of my former Ex
I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship
I become upset when I think about my Ex
I like being the person I am
I feel like crying because I feel so sad
I can communicate with my Ex in a calm and rational manner
There are many things about my personaIity I would like to change
It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person
I feel depressed
I feel emotionally separated from my Ex
People would not like me if they got to know me
I feel comfortable seeing and talking to my Ex
I feel like I am an attractive person
I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn't seem real
I find myself doing things just to please my Ex
I feel lonely
There are many things about my body I would like to change
I have many plans and goals for the future
I feel I don't have much sex appeal
I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation
Joining a singles group would make me feel I was a loser like them
It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living
I find myself making excuses to see and talk to my Ex
Because my love relationship failed, I must be a failure
I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my Ex
I feel comfortable being with people
I have trouble concentrating
I think of my Ex as related to me rather than as a separate person
I feel like an okay person
I hope my Ex is feeling as much or more emotional pain than I am
I have close friends who know and understand me
I am unable to control my emotions
I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship
I have trouble sleeping
I easily become angry at my Ex
I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners
Because my love relationship ended, I feel there must be something wrong with me
I either have no appetite or eat continuously which is unusual for me
I don't want to accept the fact that our love relationship is ending
I force myself to eat even though I'm not hungry
I have given up on my Ex and getting back together
I feel very frightened inside
It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my Ex's side
I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating
I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live
I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal
I believe if we try, my love partner and I can save our love relationship
My abdomen feels empty and hollow
I have feelings of romantic love for my Ex
I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings
I would like to get even with my Ex for hurting me
I avoid people even though I want and need friends
I have really made a mess of my life
I sigh a lot
I believe it is best for all concerned to have our love relationship end
I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner
I become upset when I think about my love partner having a love relationship with someone else
I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems
I blame my Ex for the failure of our love relationship
I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person
I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner
It will only be a matter of time until my love partner and I get back together
I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen
I would like to continue having a sexual relationship with my Ex
Life is somehow passing me by
I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie
It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead
I feel I know and understand myself
I feel emotionally committed to my Ex
I want to be with people but I feel emotionally distant from them
I am the type of person I would like to have for a friend
I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another love partner
Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying
I can't believe our love relationship is ending
I become upset when I think about my love partner dating someone
I have a normal amount of self-confidence
People seem to enjoy being with me
Morally and spiritually, I believe it is wrong for our love relationship to end
I wake up in the morning feeling there is no good reason to get out of bed
I find myself daydreaming about all the good times I had with my love partner
People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable person
I want to hurt my Ex by letting him/her know how much I hurt emotionally
I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am single
I feel guilty about my love relationship ending
I feel emotionally insecure
I feel uncomfortable even thinking about having a sexual relationship
I feel emotionally weak and helpless
I think about ending my life with suicide
I understand the reasons why our love relationship did not work out
I feel comfortable having my friends know our love relationship is ending
I am angry about the things my Ex has been doing
I feel like I am going crazy
I am unable to perform sexually
I feel as though I am the only single person in a couples-only society
I feel like a single person rather than a married person
I feel my friends look at me as unstable now that I'm separated
I daydream about being with and talking to my Ex
I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/man