Self-Test - After Divorce Support

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How Are You Adjusting To The Ending Of A Love Relationship?

Complete The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Below

Complete the self-test & you’ll receive an email with your results.

I offer a 20-minute Complimentary Phone Consult to help interpret your test results. Once you receive your results call me at 720-524-3664 to discuss them or I’ll give you a call. We’ll also follow-up with you by email.

Answer each of the following questions below:

The following statements are feelings and attitudes that people frequently experience while they are ending a love relationship. Keeping in mind one specific relationship you have ended or are ending, read each statement and decide how frequently the statement applies to your present feelings and attitudes. You must answer every question. If the statement is not appropriate for you in your present situation, answer the way you feel you might if that statement were appropriate.

I am comfortable telling people I am separated from my love partner

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I am constantly thinking of my former Ex

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I become upset when I think about my Ex

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I like being the person I am

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel like crying because I feel so sad

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I can communicate with my Ex in a calm and rational manner

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

There are many things about my personaIity I would like to change

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel depressed

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel emotionally separated from my Ex

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

People would not like me if they got to know me

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel comfortable seeing and talking to my Ex

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel like I am an attractive person

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn't seem real

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I find myself doing things just to please my Ex (or Soon To Be Ex)

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel lonely

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

There are many things about my body I would like to change

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I have many plans and goals for the future

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel I don't have much sex appeal

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

Joining a singles group would make me feel I was a loser like them

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I find myself making excuses to see and talk to my Ex

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

Because my love relationship failed, I must be a failure

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my Ex

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel comfortable being with people

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I have trouble concentrating

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I think of my Ex as related to me rather than as a separate person

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel like an okay person

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I hope my Ex (or Soon To Be Ex) is feeling as much or more emotional pain than I am, or more

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I have close friends who know and understand me

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I am unable to control my emotions

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I have trouble sleeping

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I easily become angry at my Ex (or Soon To Be Ex)

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

Because my love relationship ended, I feel there must be something wrong with me

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I either have no appetite or eat continuously which is unusual for me

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I don't want to accept the fact that our love relationship is ending

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I force myself to eat even though I'm not hungry

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I have given up on my Ex and getting back together

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel very frightened inside

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my Ex's (or STBX's) side

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I believe if we try, my love partner and I can save our love relationship

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

My abdomen feels empty and hollow

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I have feelings of romantic love for my Ex (or STBX)

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I would like to get even with my Ex for hurting me

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I avoid people even though I want and need friends

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I have really made a mess of my life

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I sigh a lot

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I believe it is best for all concerned to have our love relationship end

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I become upset when I think about my love partner having a love relationship with someone else

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I blame my Ex for the failure of our love relationship

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

It will only be a matter of time until my love partner and I get back together

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I would like to continue having a sexual relationship with my Ex

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

Life is somehow passing me by

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel I know and understand myself

Almost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never

I feel emotionally committed to my Ex