How Are You Adjusting To The Ending Of A Love Relationship?

Complete The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Below

Complete the self-test & you’ll receive an email with your results.

I offer a 20-minute Complimentary Phone Consult to help interpret your test results. Once you receive your results call me at 720-524-3664 to discuss them or I’ll give you a call. We’ll also follow-up with you by email.

Answer each of the following questions below:

The following statements are feelings and attitudes that people frequently experience while they are ending a love relationship. Keeping in mind one specific relationship you have ended or are ending, read each statement and decide how frequently the statement applies to your present feelings and attitudes. You must answer every question. If the statement is not appropriate for you in your present situation, answer the way you feel you might if that statement were appropriate.

1. I am comfortable telling people I am separated from my love partner
2. I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night
3. I am constantly thinking of my former Ex
4. I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship
5. I become upset when I think about my Ex
6. I like being the person I am
7. I feel like crying because I feel so sad
8. I can communicate with my Ex in a calm and rational manner
9. There are many things about my personaIity I would like to change
10. It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person
11. I feel depressed
12. I feel emotionally separated from my Ex
13. People would not like me if they got to know me
14. I feel comfortable seeing and talking to my Ex
15. I feel like I am an attractive person
16. I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn't seem real
17. I find myself doing things just to please my Ex
18. I feel lonely
19. There are many things about my body I would like to change
20. I have many plans and goals for the future
21. I feel I don't have much sex appeal
22. I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation
23. Joining a singles group would make me feel I was a loser like them
24. It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living
25. I find myself making excuses to see and talk to my Ex
26. Because my love relationship failed, I must be a failure
27. I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my Ex
28. I feel comfortable being with people
29. I have trouble concentrating
30. I think of my Ex as related to me rather than as a separate person
31. I feel like an okay person
32. I hope my Ex is feeling as much or more emotional pain than I am
33. I have close friends who know and understand me
34. I am unable to control my emotions
35. I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship
36. I have trouble sleeping
37. I easily become angry at my Ex
38. I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners
39. Because my love relationship ended, I feel there must be something wrong with me
40. I either have no appetite or eat continuously which is unusual for me
41. I don't want to accept the fact that our love relationship is ending
42. I force myself to eat even though I'm not hungry
43. I have given up on my Ex and getting back together
44. I feel very frightened inside
45. It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my Ex's side
46. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating
47. I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live
48. I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal
49. I believe if we try, my love partner and I can save our love relationship
50. My abdomen feels empty and hollow
51. I have feelings of romantic love for my Ex
52. I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings
53. I would like to get even with my Ex for hurting me
54. I avoid people even though I want and need friends
55. I have really made a mess of my life
56. I sigh a lot
57. I believe it is best for all concerned to have our love relationship end
58. I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner
59. I become upset when I think about my love partner having a love relationship with someone else
60. I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems
61. I blame my Ex for the failure of our love relationship
62. I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person
63. I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner
64. It will only be a matter of time until my love partner and I get back together
65. I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen
66. I would like to continue having a sexual relationship with my Ex
67. Life is somehow passing me by
68. I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie
69. It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead
70. I feel I know and understand myself
71. I feel emotionally committed to my Ex
72. I want to be with people but I feel emotionally distant from them
73. I am the type of person I would like to have for a friend
74. I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another love partner
75. Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying
76. I can't believe our love relationship is ending