A Great Question? Victim Consciousness?
Let’s start with defining the two terms:
Full Definition of victim
1: a living being sacrificed to a deity or in the performance of a religious rite
2: one that is acted on and usually adversely affected by a force or agent <the schools arevictims of the social system>: asa(1): one that is injured, destroyed, or sacrificed under any of various conditions <a victimof cancer><a victim of the auto crash><a murder victim>(2): one that is subjected to oppression, hardship, or mistreatment <a frequent victim of political attacks>b: one that is tricked or duped <a con man’s victim>
Full Definition of consciousness
1a: the quality or state of being aware especially of something within oneselfb: the state or fact of being conscious of an external object, state, or factc:awareness; especially: concern for some social or political cause
2: the state of being characterized by sensation, emotion, volition, and thought :mind
3: the totality of conscious states of an individual
4: the normal state of conscious life <regained consciousness>
5: the upper level of mental life of which the person is aware as contrasted with unconscious processes
Now the Terms Together:
Webster doesn’t have a definition, so we will turn to others:
Victim consciousness is a stage of consciousness in which people deny personal responsibility for the things that happen on their lives. People in victim consciousness believe that the world is acting upon or against them, and they are the innocent targets of other people’s action or behavior.
Victim mentality is an acquired (learned) personalitytrait in which a person tends to regard him or herself as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave like it were the case—even in the absence of clear evidence. It depends on habitual thought processes and attribution.
Victim mentality is primarily learned, for example, from family members and situations during childhood. It contrasts with the psychologically better-researched traits of neuroticism. Neuroticism may be defined as general emotional instability or a generally enhanced tendency to experience negative emotions. Psychoticism is characterized by hostility and aggression.
What victim mentality, neuroticism and psychoticism have in common is a relatively high frequency of negative emotional states such as anger, sadness, and fear. But these three traits are also partially independent: for example a given individual may have a high degree of victim mentality and a low degree of neuroticism, in which case a clinical psychologist is unlikely to regard her or him as needing treatment. Conversely, a given individual may have a high degree of neuroticism and a low degree of victim mentality.
What does this have to do with divorce?
If one or both parties are living in victim consciousness than this maybe the core issue of the divorce – not the surface problems and complaints. Each, not be able to see their individual responsibility in the situation. Instead, placing blame and pointing the finger at the each other. This blame game keeps the couple stuck in the surface issues and unable to resolve the core problems.
The 10 week series focuses on this concept, helping you move from victim to surviver – simply by shifting your consciousness – thriving in life!